If only I’d had the access and humility to HEAR this message earlier… hoping someone who needs it can hear it now. #fyp #relationship #trust #pain #marriage #dating #wife #husband #parenting #curiosity #listening #prevention #patriarchy #communication #humility

Replying to @thatgalinoveralls No lie, my partner never thought I would “get it.” But I believe many of us are capable of change. Putting boundaries in place around minimum standards of care (whether it be parenting duties, sex life, finances, values, friendships, meal prep, hobbies, self-care routines etc.) that allow both partners to share burdens and maintain their humanity is key. #fyp #foryoupage #communication #codependency #discomfort #healing #minimumstandardofcare #standard #boundarysetting #genderroles #growthmindset #ifhewantedtohewould #marriage #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #attachment #trauma #therapy

It is unfair to put extra LABOR on someone already doing work by asking them to SPELL out how you can help. #fyp #foryoupage #otd #marriage #longtermrelationship #support #payattention #partner #shownottell #communication #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok

A halftime speech for guys. If something is not working, we must have the integrity & courage to try a new approach. Patriarchy has hurt us all, but especially women. When confronted with this pain of a failed system that has prioritized profits over people, internal reflection must be amplified and focused through the feedback of those harmed most. Instead of scapegoating women, we must learn to listen and really hear her. The answers have been here all along, validated by the lived experience of those with marginalized and oppressed intersectional identities. #fyp #pain #foryoupage #communication #dismantlethepatriarchy #anger #misdirection #selfreflection #relationship #willtochange #growthmindset #reparations #community #capitalism #grief #healingjourney #systemfailure #personalresponsibility #listening #feminism #misogyny #change #marriage #longtermrelationship

Replying to @BJHales77 So much of our language and notions around loyalty are unexamined antiquities reflecting a desire to POSSESS someone rather than actually love them. Love can be hard, but healthy relationships never need to be controlled. #dismantlethepatriarchy #fyp #foryoupage #relationship #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #marriage #longtermrelationship #dating #communication #betrayal #control #manipulation #therapy #codependency #attachment

Looking for tips on how to fill out your bracket? @Jaime’s got you covered 🤣 #foryoupage #fyp #ncaa #marchmadness #ncaaw #ncaam #collegebasketball #finalfour #tournament #picks

I love Pedro Pascal as an actor, but something to consider regarding our cultural values as reflected in our language. #fyp #foryoupage #sex #pedropascal #violence #power #bodycount #media #mandalorian #entertainment #usa #culture #doubleentendre #fantastic4 #dismantlethepatriarchy #lastofus

Replying to @Rage-Against-The-Dishwasher In an ideal world, all people would feel free to speak their mind, knowing they would be heard AND that those listening would try to meet needs expressed (when healthy to do so). Turns out, women have long been doing their part to build this world, but men have not reciprocated. So yes, verbal communication is important. But so are the reasons why someone may not be using their voice, and their desires are no less worthy. It is time for men to put our egos aside and get to work closing the emotional labor gap in relationships. #fyp #foryoupage #communication #relationship #dating #premarital #equality #longtermrelationship #marriage #healing #dismantlethepatriarchy #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #emotionallabor #malefragility #defensiveness #becurious

When we as men learn to de-center ourselves, the lives of those around can finally have space to grow. Good intention is not the same thing as good impact, nor an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for causing harm. Love is not transactional. #fyp #foryoupage #archive #dabda #acceptance #denial #anger #bargaining #relationship #marriage #stages #toxicmasculinity #transaction #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #growthmindset #dobetter #dating #therapy #decentermen #respect #dismantlethepatriarchy #sahm #emotionallabor #defaultno

Replying to @SilentE8 “Who is this REALLY for?” So many of our actions “on behalf” of someone else can blind us to the ways in which we are trying to mask our own wounds, and worse - keep us from seeing new harm we may be causing in the process #fyp #foryoupage #kids #communication #relationship #values #minimumstandardofcare #marriage #parenting #fatherhood #dadsoftiktok #momsoftiktok #sahm #husbandsoftiktok #sahp #wivesoftiktok #fundad #lostmom #dismantlethepatriarchy #therapy #capitalism #dobetter #family #worklifebalance #priorities