Someone commented on this video on Y T and pointed out that this live was 2 years ago today. They asked how I am doing now. I’m doing great. The woman you see in this video no longer exists and for that, I am so grateful. Thank you for being on this journey with me. #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #abuseawarness #coercivecontrol #covertabuse

KNOW THE SIGNS! If you’re not sure if it’s love bombing or not, easy. Hit the breaks. Set some boundaries. If theh respect your boundaries, green flag. If they complain or just keep moving at the speed of light, 🚩🚩🚩 #redflags #abuseawareness #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #traumarecoverycoach #lovebombing #emotionalabuse #manipulation

This realization is both devastating and empowering. The good news is understanding this is a huge key to being able to start healing. #coercivecontrol #covertabuse #covertnarcissist #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #abuseawareness

Nothing makes me happier than losing clients (for THIS reason). Can’t wait to lose some more clients! #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #traumarecoverycoach #traumahealing #healingjourney

Remember this on the tough days: you’re not there anymore. Even if you’re 5 days out. You’re 5 days out! Keep going! #lgbtqdv #traumarecoverycoach #dvsurvivor #abuserecovery #narcfree #narcfreeliving

It’s from day one to well after you leave, usually. #coercivecontrol #covertabuse #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor

I saw that going differently in my mind. #lgbtqdv #abuseawareness #dvsurvivor #covertabuse #coercivecontrol #lgbtq #latebloominglesbian

This happened often. They would get drunk & high & start talking about “deep” things and then when I was too tired ro interact they would say “you’re just not as deep as I am.” No, it’s 3am. You’ve been talking for hours. I have to get up in 3 hours to work and take care of my child. Abusers want you to be tired. #traumarecoverycoach #abuseawareness #coercivecontrol #lgbtqdv #covertabuse

Draft from 12/18/21. When survivors finally feel like they can share the abusw they expereinced, quite oftne they are met with things like: “She’s crazy. Another woman blaming all men (I’m a lesbian so this one is wild). Women are liars. Everyone is abused these days. Not everyone’s ex is abusive. Just move on.” And so much more. We as a society need to do better. We need to believe survivors. Abuse is happening and it’s way more comman than you think it is. #traumarecoverycoach #abuseawareness #coercivecontrol #covertabuse #lgbtqdv

Love bombing vs genuine affection #lovebombing #abuseawareness #greenflagsvsredflags #dvsurvivor #lgbtqdv #antiuhaul

What usually happens in abusive relarionships is you end up being convinced that YOU are the problem. It’s bc of your past. You’re too sensitive. You need too much. You don’t know how to be happy. The abuser will tel you all of these things in order to blame the problem on anything but their actions. Once you realize and accept that the REAL problem is their abusive behavior, you’ll see that the problem was never you. #abuseawareness #lgbtqdv #traumarecoverycoach #covertabuse #coercivecontrol

Draft from 11/6/2021 (the video, I’m adding my two cents now, almost 2 years later). Love bombing is DESIGNED to overwhelm your senses. You are on such a high from the over the too, ridiculousness they are pouring out on you that you either don’t notice the red flags or they don’t make sense to you so they are overlooked. This is why it’s SO important to take things SLOW. #lovebombing #traumarecoverycoach #abuseawareness #coercivecontrol #covertabuse #lovebombing #lgbtqdv

#onthisday I always call 2021 my year of leaving. From Feb-May 2021 I didn’t share my abuser on my IG platform. I knew something was wrong. I knew it wasn’t good. I didn’t want ANYONE to see me posting with them and think I had a happy life. Then we went to Mexico. It was supposed to fix the relationship. It didn’t fix the relationship. I remember taking a boomerang that first day and panicking thinking “I can’t share this. I can’t have people thinking everything is fine now.” “Just share it,” they said. I shared it. It was a huge backslide. It would be 3 more months before we broke up for the last time and I made actual changes to break free. If things are horrible and you’ve been wanting to leave, beware of them pushing big milestones on you. A big trip? Meeting their parents? Getting a puppy? New house? It won’t fix things if abuse is involved! #abuseawareness #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #traumarecoverycoach #coercivecontrol #covertabuse

#onthisday love bombing is abuse. #lovebombing #domesticviolence #abuseawareness #lgbtqdv #dvsurvivor #traumarecoverycoach

Men, why you so mad? I didn’t say anything about men. #lgbtqdv

#onthisday they always leave out 98% of the story and they are ALWAYS the victim. #dvsurvivor #lgbtqdv #abuseawareness

When I first left, the abuser was LOUD about wanting to still be a part of my son’s life (after, of course, having called him a brat, said “I’m done with him!” And stormed around the house in a rage because he said he wanted me instead of them). They also insisted we would have to share my dog and that they would sue me if I room her. If you’re experiencing this (I know, many of your abuser’s are the kid’s bio/legal parent), know that they are just trying to keep their claws in you so they can maintain some form of conteol over you. It’s all a part of the game for them. #dvsurvivor #nocontact #lgbtqdv #abuseawareness #covertabuse #coercivecontrol #onthisday

Be careful who you date! YES. But also know that coercive controllers are VERY crafty. #abuseawareness #lgbtqdv #traumarecoverycoach #coercivecontrol

Red flag central 🚩 #relationships #lesbiansoftiktok #unhealthyrelationship #narcissism #lgbtqdv #love

Are the ppl in your life dragging you down or lifting you up? #relationships #lesbiansoftiktok #unhealthyrelationship #lgbtqdv #toxicrelationship #narcissism #love