Please, I beg of you, challenge yourself to use different language, other than “masculine energy” or “feminine energy” to describe human behavior. ##therapytiktok

Over the weekend, I invite you to replace the labels “masculine” or “feminine” when you’re describing human behavior with words like “active” or “passive“ or “giving” or “receiving.” . In fact just break up with gender binary coded thinking and language altogether, when it comes to human behavior. . All people, regardless of biological sex and gender possess the capacity to be active and passive and giving and receiving, and this and that… . The goal is integration, balance and acceptance of all of these strategies, listen to your body, ask for help and give help, etc. . There is no need to assign gender terms to this behavior, other than to promote a binary and patriarchal view of what behavior is acceptable for certain people. This is the core of gender essentialism, and a sneaky and insidious way patriarchy gets re-branded. . #internalizedmisogyny #smashthepatriarchy #therapytiktok

Let’s talk about restrictive masculinity, and why these gendered expectations end up hurting more than helping those who adhere to them. Brendan Kwiatkowski joins me on this week’s episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate to help unpack incel culture and the role that masculinity plays in upholding it. #linkinbio to listen to the full conversation. I’m curious…what do you think about when you hear the term “restrictive masculinity”? What traits come to mind? Let me know in the comments. #masculinity #toxicmasculinity #restrictivemasculinity ………………………………………………………………. The content posted on this page, or any of Dr. Kate’s or Modern Intimacy’s social media channels are for educational and entertainment purposes only and are not a substitute for therapy. ↘ If you need immediate support, please text HOME to 741741 or call 1-800-273-8255 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ↘ Follow Dr. Kate Balestrieri on IG + Tiktok: @drkatebalestrieri ↘ Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify ↘ To schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Dr. Kate Balestrieri or a member of the @themodernintimacy team, go to www.modernintimacy.com/contact ↘ To read up about mental health, relationships and sexuality, check out the Modern Intimacy blog at www.modernintimacy.com ……………………………………………………………….

Something fun is coming…and you will be too! Whether it’s wands or rabbits, I’m curious what kind of s-x toys you like! There are so many different options on the market for toys, which means variety can be embraced in the bedroom. Maybe you like using one type of toy solo and a different type when playing with partners. Whatever your preferences may be, I want to know what gets you there – so head to my #linkinbio to take a short survey to let me know and get 15% OFF your next purchase courtesy of @bedgeek as a thank you! And be sure to stay tuned for a very fun announcement coming soon… ………………………………………………………………. The content posted on this page, or any of Dr. Kate’s or Modern Intimacy’s social media channels are for educational and entertainment purposes only and are not a substitute for therapy. ↘ If you need immediate support, please text HOME to 741741 or call 1-800-273-8255 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ↘ Follow Dr. Kate Balestrieri on IG + Tiktok: @drkatebalestrieri ↘ Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify ↘ To schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Dr. Kate Balestrieri or a member of the @themodernintimacy team, go to www.modernintimacy.com/contact ↘ To read up about mental health, relationships and sexuality, check out the Modern Intimacy blog at www.modernintimacy.com ……………………………………………………………….