✅THE SOLUTION: Instead of leading by telling your partner why you did what you did (defending, justifying, explaining) - which can leave your partner feeling as if you’re saying, “you shouldn’t feel that way and here’s why…” Instead try saying: 1. “Let me see if I understood you correctly…” (and then repear back to them what yoy heard them say.) 2. “I get it, that makes sense.” 3. “I’m so sorry I had that impact on you, that sucks / that must really hurt / I totally see how that is frustrating.” 4. I don’t want you to feel that way, what can I do? (Or, What can I do next time?) Try this and let me know how it goes! If you and your partner would like to learn how to communicate in a way where you both feel understood, validated, listened to and empathized with, book a call with me! I know exactly how to support you in navigating even the most difficult of conversations. ❤️Erica #rel#relationshipcoachl#relationshipcommunicationm#communicatewithyourpartnerm#communicateectively #com#communicationskillsm#communicationtipsf#etfr#partsworks#ifst#internalfamilysystemsm#familysystemso#emotionalintelligenceg#regulateyournervoussystemr#nervoussystemregulationr#nervoussystemhealingw#howtocalmdownx#anxietyx#anxiousx#anxiousattachmentx#anxiousattachmentstylet#attachmentstylen#innerchildn#innerchildhealingn#innerchildworka#shadowworka#healingjourneyn#innerhealingn#innerhealingcoachf#lifecoachp#rapidresolutiontherapyo#emotionalfreedomtechniquem#somatichealingm#somatictherapyl#relationshiptherapistl#relationshiptherapyr#marriagecoachr#marriagetherapys#bestcoachess#bestcoache#therapye#therapysessionse#therapistsontiktoku#trustissuesm#communicationissuesm#communicationcoachm#communicationskillsm#communicationproblemsm#communicationtipst#cptsdi#childhoodtraumaa#healfromtraumaaumatok