CBT doesn’t change your feelings or fix your circumstances. But it can help you uncover unhealthy patterns in your thinking. Like linking your value to whether or not you get picked. #therapytools #therapytiktok #therapytok #therapistsontiktok #cbt

We went over this topic on my Live, comment below if you were there. The Gottman Method has many tools and resources for how to be a better listener. Listening builds trust. Trust builds connection. Connection leads to intimacy and confidence in the relationship. #therapytools #therapytiktok #therapytok #gottmanmethod #therapistsontiktok

Clips from my Live! Thanks to all 400 of you that stayed for so long!!! Comment below if you were in the live. I’ll video respond to any question on this video. #therapytools #therapytiktok #therapytok #attachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle

Couples therapy is hard. The Gottmans compare it to learning a new language. Many people come to couples therapy hoping to air their grievances and have a moderater there to keep score. That’s not what happens in Gottman Therapy. Each partner is asked to reflect deeply on their contribution to the unhealthy dynamic. Both partners likely need to learn a new language of communicating about conflict. This requires effort and can be very challenging. The Gottmans have a new book called Fight Right with many tools and resources to improve how conflict is managed. #gottmanmethod #cbt #journalwithme #therapytools #therapytiktok

Replying to @Jasmine Stauffer sorry! Let me try again. Original comment was: what if my partner cheated? (Then is it ok to use contempt?). Contempt is harmful to a relationship. So even when a person feels justified in their behavior, it is still damaging to the relationship. #gottmanmethod #cbt #journalwithme #therapytools #therapytiktok