Couples therapy is hard. The Gottmans compare it to learning a new language. Many people come to couples therapy hoping to air their grievances and have a moderater there to keep score. That’s not what happens in Gottman Therapy. Each partner is asked to reflect deeply on their contribution to the unhealthy dynamic. Both partners likely need to learn a new language of communicating about conflict. This requires effort and can be very challenging. The Gottmans have a new book called Fight Right with many tools and resources to improve how conflict is managed. #gottmanmethod #cbt #journalwithme #therapytools #therapytiktok