Replying to @aaroncogdepth This comment was left on a video from @Marla (they/them) who is absolutely amazing! I’ve talked a lot about this and wrote a lengthy post on Medium about this- can be found in Lincoln bye oh. There’s a long history of using lifestyle language to cause harm and lessen relationships. Sw1nngerrs call their activity a lifedtyle, not their relationship(s). Are our relationships, the people we love and care about, a lifestyle? #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #relationships #polyamoryeducation #polyamorytiktok #nonmonogamy

Replying to @endoflifeclarity Erasing one’s polyamorous identity sounds incredibly similar to bi erasure. Relationship style is not what confirms or removes one’s polyamorous identity. The choice being made is being in multiple relationships. Your relationship style does not always match your relationship orientation. If you think polyamory is a choice, you are either A: only viewing it as a relationship style B: upholding mono normativity or C: are ambiamorous and may not know of the term or not using it. Ambiamory is completely valid and some will call themselves polyamorous if it’s their current or desired relationship style. Your relationship orientation is just who you are. I believe it can be fluid just as sexual orientation can. Doesn’t mean it’s a choice. #polyamory #polyamorous #relationshiporientation #relationshipstyle #polyam #relationships

I’ve heard this and similar things over and over. As if it’s only for the male gaze and that women can’t decide for themselves #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam

This what was right for each of us as individuals and as a couple. Monogamy never felt right to me. I’m speaking for myself and my experiences, not what would be right for everyone. I was 18 and a high school senior when we started dating. Our conversations on non monogamy mutually came up very early on and took about 2 years for us to truly process if it was ok because social norms ya know! We didn’t know anyone in any sort of open relationship. Had we not opened our relationship very early on, do I think our relationship would still be going? I don’t know. However I can say, it’s contributed to happiness. Our relationship is about freedom, not restriction. I don’t see either of us being truly happy long term without individual freedom. #polyamory #polyamorytiktok #polyamorous #relationships #polyamoryskits

Several of my neighbors know and I don’t *actually* care if others read something else into it #polyamory #polyam #husbandandboyfriend #polyamorous