Does this sound like your Mother? Seems almost textbook for those who have had a similar experience with a parent. It hurts to even attempt to set a boundary, or to take up emotional space. Some of the clear ways her mother attempts to emotionally manipulate her might not always be obvious for those who have spent a life time believing they are inherently wrong. 🚩Don't be nasty to me - Enters into Victim Mode because she is being met with facts and cannot apologise or hold space for her daughter's experience. This helps her to avoid any accountability or change. 🚩 I am the one person in your life who has stuck by you - this isolates the victim into believing they don't have any other support system. It also communicates to the victim, I have been there for you (which is what a Mother SHOULD do by nature and through unconditional love) and therefore I should get a pass to mistreat you. 🚩 When everyone else was like ' crazy Liza' - Gaslighting and triangulating the victim - even others think you are crazy. This further isolates the victim and makes them reluctant to speak up or trust in others emotionally. It warps the victims view of themselves, making them more inclined to seek out the opinion of the toxic person instead of using their own intuition or trusting the advice of others. 🚩 I gave my life for you girls - When the other tactics don't work, the toxic person will become the MARTYR. Look what I gave up for you, look what I did for you. Even if it is true, they are again taking up space that the victim is asking for. It's impossible to gain any acceptance or validation here. 🚩 When did you become an Ingrate? - When the manipulation isn't working and the victim is holding their own, and challenging the toxic person with facts and experiences- the insults are a last resort. They attack your character. TO HEAL FROM THIS ⬆️ #fyp #trauma