This is a very common struggle for those with anxious attachment style. Growing up with inconsistent or unreliable parents, they often wondered: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" "What do I have to do so that you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, which created abandonment beliefs such as: "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." Over time, they learned to associate these feelings with love. Deep down, anxiously-attached partners (subconsciously) hope their partners will heal this wound by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved.  The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs securely. NOTES: * This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel uneasy/anxious due to their partners' behaviors.  * This isn’t the only reason behind the obsessive behaviour. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousmind #obsessivelove #fearofabandonment

If left unresolved, our attachment wounds will get carried into our adult relationships, where we repeat the same patterns until we can resolve them. Deep down, anxiously attached partners subconsciously hope their partners will heal their wounds by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll likely push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. NOTE This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel anxious due to unhealthy behaviors from their partners. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #relationshipproblems #anxiousattachmentstyle

When left unresolved, our past attachment wounds get carried into adult relationships because our partners become our 'new' attachment figures. They essentially become an “opportunity” for our attachment wounds to be healed. Instead, those who struggle with such anxious tendencies can use these moments of difficulty to learn more about themselves and move towards becoming more secure. —— If you struggle with anxious tendencies, and are serious about making changes, this program is for you. The Secure Love Program • Lessons, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 coaching with me me. • Community with other like-minded people APPLY NOW - LINK IN BIO Enrolments close THIS FRIDAY 29th March . . . #anxiousattachment #attachmentissues #secureattachment #relationshipproblems #relationshiphealing #anxiousattachmentstyle #relationshipanxiety

If anxious partners could have the words for their hearts…. (please share so others can see ❤️) If you struggle with anxious tendencies in your relationship, please know that it doesn't make you a bad person. You've learned the habits because they helped you cope in some way, meaning… they can be shifted. This post doesn't condone or encourage unhealthy behaviors or tell anyone to neglect their needs. Each partner must actively take responsibility for their actions, communicate better, and work on building healthier habits for a secure relationship. The hope behind this letter is; 1. For the partners to better understand their anxious lovers. Deep down, they are terrified of being inadequate and being abandoned. 2. For the anxious partners to understand where their actions might be coming from so that they can compassionately guide themselves towards growth. I hope this encourages you to allow compassion and understanding to guide interactions with yourself and your partner. Here's to understanding ❤️ -------- Are you an anxious lover? Do you want to learn how to communicate like this, to open up conversations rather than push your partners away? Ready to become secure and confident in yourself? Come and join the 'Secure Love Program.' Book a consultation call to see if the program is the right fit for you! (Link in bio) • Lessons, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 coaching with me me. • Community with other like-minded people LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dismissiveavoidant #disorganizedattachment #attachmentissues #communicationiskey #relationshipproblems #relationshiphealing #nonviolentcommunication

🚨LIVE Program for Anxious lovers - Enrolling now: LINK IN BIO🚨When triggered, anxiously attached lovers often react aggressively because they are hyper-focused on preventing their biggest fear from happening: abandonment. They'll do whatever it takes, even if their protest behaviors are detrimental (pushing their partners away or putting them on a spot to see how they respond). Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one's adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  "If I push them away or act out and they still love me, that means I am lovable and that they won't leave me." However, this is neither a healthy way to heal nor sustainable; it'll ultimately wear down or break the relationship. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things to help you shift from anxious to secure: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. —— Do you want to go from anxious to secure? Then, this program is for you!! • Live workshops, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots. Starting soon. Book a consult call with me to see if it’s the right fit for you! LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant  #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues