I don’t know who needs to hear this, but… Sometimes, people just want different things. It doesn’t mean either of you are wrong to want those things, it just means your needs and #boundaries are incompatible. Of course, it is extremely hurtful when your partner evolves into a person who you don’t see yourself with anymore. I would never want to undermine that pain. But this kind of change doesn’t just happen for #monogamy/#polyamory - there are many couples who break up because, for example, they previously both thought they wanted kids, but one of them changed their mind later. Unfortunately, there is zero guarantee that your #relationship will always stay the same and that you as people will always grow in the same direction. No one is the bad person here - people just evolve and change over time, and that is normal and unavoidable. Sometimes, that means you grow apart. That’s no one’s fault. You both deserve happiness even if it means you can’t do it together, or in the same way as before. And it is equally painful for both parties, not just the one who didn’t change, when that realisation hits. To love someone is to know when to let them go. And believe it or not, a #breakup can sometimes be the biggest demonstration of love. To be clear, when I deal with situations like this with my clients, I would never be so crass as to directly tell them what they should or shouldn’t do! This video is just a bit of humour. Ultimately everyone is on their own journey and I want my clients to feel empowered and self-motivated to effect the changes they want in their lives that they feel sure about. But if you’re in a place where you’re feeling unsure about the future of your relationship, or you just need a space to sort out your thoughts and talk to someone who gets it, book a chat with me and let’s talk 🤗