#boundaryup When a person who’s left us out in the cold starts to experience coldness and hardships themself it (or they) can cause guilty feelings in us. It’s ESSENTIAL to protect the progress you’ve made by not going backwards due to those guilty feelings. So instead of dangerously reaching back to help alleviate their hardships or wallowing in guilty feelings, it may be helpful to release those negative feelings and emotions by silently (to oneself) offer them the following: “May the consequences of your choices provide the opportunity for you to build an authentic, honorable character. And may the coldness of the winter you’ve chosen push you to become someone worth eternal warmth.” Boundary up! #boundaries #encouragement #healingtrauma #toxicrelationships #beencouraged #healingprocess #keepgoing #selflove #fypシ #CapCut